https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow Almost Professional Marriage Advice Mon, 15 Mar 2021 18:15:50 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.8 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/cropped-showpic-2-32x32.jpg https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow 32 32 Cat Skinner and Joel van Vliet give marriage advice even though one of them is grossly unqualified. yes episodic acrylicnoise@gmail.com acrylicnoise@gmail.com () almost professional marriage advice https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/wp-content/uploads/2019/10/showpic.jpg https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow Weekly 168572202 EPISODE 68: A Bath and a Hot Therapist https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-68-a-bath-and-a-hot-therapist https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-68-a-bath-and-a-hot-therapist#respond Mon, 15 Mar 2021 07:33:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=580 What happens when you catch feels for your therapist? What are the most important questions…

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What happens when you catch feels for your therapist? What are the most important questions to ask yourself before you consider marriage? How much does size actually matter? These listener questions are the jumping off point for this week’s meander through intimate relationship terrain. Joel and Cat give somewhat qualified (but always pithy) sex and relationship advice.

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EPISODE 67: I Don’t Know Which Hole We’re IN https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-67 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-67#respond Mon, 08 Mar 2021 08:30:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=575 Joel and Cat discuss how to create parameters and protocol around pandemic dating, how couples…

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Joel and Cat discuss how to create parameters and protocol around pandemic dating, how couples can create a sex schedule that suits everyone, and whether or not attraction can deepen as you get to know a new lover.

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EPISODE 66: Yeah, I’m Into Sex https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-66 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-66#respond Mon, 01 Mar 2021 08:44:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=569 When the new person you’re seeing tells you they don’t want their ex to find…

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When the new person you’re seeing tells you they don’t want their ex to find out about you, is it a red flag? Which boundaries should be set in the early days of relationships? Joel and Cat help listeners navigate the uncertain terrain of burgeoning love. When the new person you’re seeing tells you they don’t want their ex to find out about you, is it a red flag? Which boundaries should be set in the early days of relationships? Joel and Cat help listeners navigate the uncertain terrain of burgeoning love. 

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EPISODE 65: Still Not Naked https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-65 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-65#respond Mon, 22 Feb 2021 08:30:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=558 This week, Joel and Cat offer up some questions to pose to your partner to…

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This week, Joel and Cat offer up some questions to pose to your partner to help deepen your connection, they help a listener cultivate intimacy with her husband though his meds have taken sex off the table, and they navigate a demi-sexual listener away from the ‘friend zone’.

Here’s the link to a list of questions that are rumoured to lead to love.

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EPISODE 64: Zoom Dating 101 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-64 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-64#respond Mon, 15 Feb 2021 08:27:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=553 In this episode, Cat gushes about a memorable Zoom date and listeners send in their…

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In this episode, Cat gushes about a memorable Zoom date and listeners send in their lockdown dating ideas. Joel and Cat decide whether or not a listener should tell a friend that they have a crush on them, and Cat gets real clear on how to ask your lover for what you want.

Here’s a link to a list of virtual zoo, museum and attraction tours.

Here’s a link to the Netflix party extension, now called Teleparty.

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EPISODE 63: Advice On A Device https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-63 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-63#respond Mon, 08 Feb 2021 13:55:46 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=547 It’s abundantly clear that Joel is growing restless with this podcast and needs things to…

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It’s abundantly clear that Joel is growing restless with this podcast and needs things to be shaken up. Despite this, he still manages to pull through and weigh in on issues like how adolescent sexual encounters can set the stage for adult sexual experience, and best practices for conflict resolution with your loved one during lockdown. Cat has one or two insightful thoughts on inter-cultural dating and the best circumstances under which to shed your virginity. 

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EPISODE 62: What’s In The Sauce? https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-62 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-62#respond Mon, 01 Feb 2021 08:00:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=542 How can playing with power dynamics enhance your sex life and your relationship at large? …

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How can playing with power dynamics enhance your sex life and your relationship at large?  Why can’t vibrant women in their 50’s and 60’s attract men in their age bracket? How can I change my wife’s bathroom habits so they’re less disgusting? Joel and Cat artfully answer these questions PLUS Joel gets super graphic about asking for certain sex acts and Cat gets explicit about a personal fantasy – just another Monday at I Do and I Don’t.

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EPISODE 61:Next Level Sex Ed https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-61 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-61#respond Mon, 25 Jan 2021 08:19:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=537 This week, Cat and Joel talk about how to empower your teens with next-level sex…

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This week, Cat and Joel talk about how to empower your teens with next-level sex education, and Joel offers up a step-by-step tutorial on how to ‘do the sex’. They also chat about the practice of celibacy in the face of the pandemic, and how to keep your sex life alive when you’re in lockdown with your partner.

As promised, here are the links that Cat mentions in this episode:

Shan Boodram, @shanboody on Instagram

She Comes First & He Comes Next, Ian Kerner

Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski

Guide to Getting It On, Paul Jonnaides

OMGyes

https://www.goodreads.com/list/show/15121.Best_Nonfiction_Sex_Books_Ever_

https://www.scarleteen.com/

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Episode 60:Prioritize Your Pussy https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-60 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-60#respond Mon, 18 Jan 2021 08:02:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=530 Cat and Joel talk about the media-driven narrative around vaginas and shame, the complexities of…

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Cat and Joel talk about the media-driven narrative around vaginas and shame, the complexities of human scent and chemistry, how true intimacy is built in relationships, and the idea of keeping stepparents in the picture after the adult relationship ends.

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EPISODE 59: Loving In LOCKDOWN https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-59 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/episode-59#respond Mon, 11 Jan 2021 08:35:00 +0000 https://joelvanvliet.com/idoandidontshow/?p=509 Joel and Cat talk about what to do when one partner is carrying more of…

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Joel and Cat talk about what to do when one partner is carrying more of the emotional load, how to declare interest in someone you briefly dated and would like to date again, and they take on the fascinating topic of male chastity devices.

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